5 Reasons Why Comparing Yourself With Others Is Damaging

The least productive thing you can do is compare yourself with others. It's counterproductive and damaging. Stop doing it NOW! It's like tripping yourself up. You have a goal, and you start working on it, but then you start comparing yourself with someone successful, someone who's already where you want to be. The moment you do that is the moment you trip yourself up. And every time you trip yourself up, it gets more and more difficult to get up and keep going. You take one step forward and two steps back. So why would you sabotage yourself like that?

We usually compare ourselves with women who are where we want to be in career and life. So, if you feel jealous when you see someone else's success, it means that's what you want for yourself.

Turn that jealousy into a passion. Start being passionate about your own goals and creating the life you want for yourself. Don't spend your time thinking about the success of other people. Time spent in that way is time wasted. Instead, you should use that time in a more productive way, thinking about your strengths and abilities and coming up with a plan to reach your own career goal. Spend your time wisely. And when you're productive and taking action towards your goal, you feel amazing, powerful, and confident. Start telling yourself, "If she could do it, I can do it as well."

Another thing is that when you look at someone's success, you just see the final product. You're not seeing the whole journey, failures, challenges, and everything that comes with it. I'm sure you think it's so easy for her, but you never know what's behind, the real truth, or

how it was for her when she started. You're just assuming that it's easy because she's already there. You're telling yourself a made-up story about someone else's success, and it's not serving you because you're negatively projecting it on yourself and your progress.

I've also had periods in my life when I'd compare myself with others. It mainly happened when I was not satisfied with where I was at the moment or how fast my progress was made.

So, I started thinking, "How do I feel when comparing myself with others?" I thought it was helpful and motivating for a long time. But then I realized it's actually not. I couldn't find even one instance when I felt amazing and motivated. I always felt terrible. And all those little inner gremlins started coming up: self-doubt, fear, lack of confidence, and belief in myself. Instead of being motivated and taking action, I'd start thinking it will never happen to me. It just made me want to quit.

So, here's why is it not good to compare yourself with others:

1. You're decreasing your self-worth. You're telling yourself you're not good enough by thinking someone else is better than you or more capable than you.

2. You're rejecting your unique self (authenticity). We're all different. We're all unique in our own way, and that's beautiful. Use your authenticity as your strength. They have something I don't have - yes, they do, and you have something they don't have. So, what's unique about me? How am I different than other people?

3. It affects your self-confidence. How do you feel when you think someone is better than you? Or that someone is more intelligent than you? When you think you're not good at this or that? Those are all just thoughts that are not true. So if you're telling yourself a story about yourself, choose one that serves you. The one that encourages you and builds your confidence.

4. It imposes self-guilt. When you compare your journey with other people's journeys, you feel guilty. You start telling yourself you're not even close to where you should be. You make it mean you're not doing enough. That you're not going fast enough. As a result, you start thinking and feeling like a failure. This is not going to help you reach your goal more quickly. It's just going to slow you down. Everyone's journey is different. Everyone's pace is different. And it doesn't mean you're late or that you're falling behind. It just means you might need more time to get where you want to be. But the most important part is that you'll get there no matter how much time it takes.

5. It holds you back from taking action and making progress. It keeps you where you are right now instead of moving in the direction where you want to be. So it's not doing you any good. How much time do you spend thinking about other people and what they're doing? And how much time do you spend thinking about your goals and taking action?

Focus on yourself and your journey. The only way you'll be able to do it is by turning to yourself and digging inside to find your own ways of making things right. Social media is the best place for entertaining this useless habit. So, maybe one solution is to start spending less time on social media. Or becoming aware when you start comparing yourself with others and intentionally interrupting it with another activity is a great way of removing this unproductive habit from your life.

I love journaling my thoughts and feelings every day. It keeps me aware of what's going through my head. I become aware of the limiting beliefs that are not serving me and how I feel as a result of that. All the wisdom is hidden in how we think and feel. That's what keeps us stuck or empowers us to take action. But if you have negative thoughts about yourself all the time, that's not gonna get you anywhere near where you want to be. Instead, you're just going to feel even worse.

So, start journaling and intentionally changing your thoughts to make you feel inspired, motivated, and confident. Choose thoughts that drive action and not make you stay in the same place. Here are some questions to help you gain awareness:

1. How am I feeling now? How do I want to feel?

2. What are my current thoughts about myself?

3. What do I want to think about myself?

4. Who do I want to be? What kind of woman do I want to become?

5. What's special about me?

6. How am I unique?

7. What are my strengths?

8. How is my journey unique?

Don't let other people's success freak you out and push you back to your comfort zone. Instead, use other people's success as an inspiration for your own. You are special and unique just the way you are. You already have everything you need to create the career you want and become successful on your own terms.

Look inside of yourself and look in front of you. Looking back is not relevant. What happened in that past stays in the past and is not defining your future. Likewise, other people's journeys have nothing to do with your journey.